As parents we often forget how important it is to not be parents for a bit, of course, we are still parents but finding time to just be Dan and Charlotte is equally as important as spending time with your kids.
When you become a parent you often lose yourself (not like Eminem) but you lose your identity, you forget who you were before you were “mum” and “dad” as much as you love those little darlings with all your heart and cherish the moments you have with them (some more than others) it can get you down just doing the same thing day in day out and not getting any “me” time or any time as a couple. Children are made out of love (mostly) so don’t forget to love your partner just as much as you did before. Make the effort to have date nights or play a board game at home when the kids are asleep. Keep working on your relationship, children don’t always bring people together, sometimes children tear couples apart. Nothing to do with the child itself but due to stress, lack of time as a couple and little effort with each other.
Today’s post is a little shorter than usual because I’m practising what I preach and we are going for a date night.
We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives
The past few weeks have been hard on me mentally and physically. I’ve been constantly on the go to the point that I’ve been forgetting to take my medication, if anybody reading this suffers from anxiety and depression you will understand how bad you feel when you go cold turkey. You get headaches, you feel like everything is coming crashing down. Those feelings you thought you had at bay, come back 100x worse. You feel worthless, rough, tired and emotional. I wouldn’t recommend going cold turkey to anyone the withdrawal is horrendous.
After such a tough time lately I’m finally starting to feel like myself again those feelings have subsided (for now) they will never completely disappear but they are manageable at the moment.
I’ve decided I need some TLC I need to look after my own mind. So I’m going back to my go-to pick me up, which is yoga! I absolutely love yoga, it calms my mind, body and soul (i know it sounds a bit cringe but it’s true) I never really understood yoga before I started using it for my anxiety, I always thought it was a bit cringey, I thought it was just sitting there breathing and being silent. I had little to no knowledge about it and while you do focus on your breathing throughout your practice it’s much more than just breathing techniques. It’s amazing for your mental state, it’s great for relieving stress. It can help you get a better sleep. It’s also exercise so is great for your body and posture. So if like me you wrote off yoga before giving it a chance then I urge you to just try it. You may be amazed.
I’m trying to keep on top of the housework again. I don’t know about anyone else but if the house is a mess it always makes me in a bad mood.
I’m also going to be making a bit more time for me, whether that be doing my makeup, my nails, a facemask or a bath. Since having anxiety I’ve realised how important self-care really is. I’d love to hear your self-care tips, what’s your go-to thing to make you feel better.
How can we help others if we don’t help ourselves first.